Author Archives: Etan Ben-Ami, LCSW

In my previous posts, I explored the apparent split between thoughts and feelings.  It seems that we can have feelings without conscious thought, even without the “automatic thoughts” that Beck claimed to precede emotions.  Our ability to change feelings through … Continue reading →

So what’s going on here?  Let’s start with what we know. We routinely experience feelings, both positive and negative, which have no basis in rational thought. We can alter our feelings with statements that have little or no basis in … Continue reading →

In Part I, I demonstrated the common phenomenon of feeling or believing in expectations, demands, or standards which we know to be unreasonable from an objective, logical perspective.  These feelings and beliefs are usually harsh and absolute, and the more … Continue reading →

Do you ever find yourself thinking one thing and feeling something completely different is true?  Are the feelings usually troubling?  Could you turn them into statements, perhaps centered around the words “should” and “must”?  Perhaps they are harsh statements about … Continue reading →

Here is another great little article on cognitive errors that we see everyday.  If you feel you have all of them, well … at one time or another, we’ve all made these mistakes.  The benefit of understanding these cognitive errors … Continue reading →